Finding Inner Connection This Thanksgiving: A Reflection Through Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy in Orange County, CA

While I’m aware that Thanksgiving carries many meanings—some filled with loss and grief and others full of coziness and connection—I found myself reflecting today on the importance of connecting with the parts of myself before stepping into the chaos of connecting with family.

I was invited to spend the day at Knott’s Berry Farm with my nephews. One part of me urged me to go, reminding me that the boys are growing up and that one day their lives will be filled with friends, activities, and independence. But another part of me, a much quieter yet persistent one, spoke up about how busy I’ve been and how deeply I’ve been yearning for inner peace. This part asked me—loudly—to slow down. To pause. To create space so the parts of me that usually stay in the background could finally take the mic.

So this morning, instead of joining the hustle and bustle (which, let’s be honest, would only lead to checking my Oura Ring later and seeing I’d been stressed for 12 hours straight), I chose a slower pace. I made coffee. I took a solo walk without headphones. I admired the holiday decorations. I exchanged “Good morning” and “Happy Thanksgiving” greetings with neighbors. And in that quiet space, I was able to hear from different parts of myself—each one holding something important.

We are often torn between the demands of others, the expectations of who we think we’re supposed to be, and the fear of letting people down. In that tension, it becomes harder to hear the softer, quieter voices within us—our exiles, our protectors, our managers—all trying in their own ways to help us feel safe and connected.

If you’re curious about exploring these inner dynamics and learning why your parts may feel conflicted, Internal Family Systems therapy (IFS) can be a powerful approach. Many people find that parts work helps them cultivate more clarity, compassion, and self-trust. If you’re looking for IFS therapy in Orange County, CA, this may be the right time to begin a deeper journey into understanding your inner world.

Wherever you are and whatever your holiday season looks like, my hope is that you feel connected to yourself—and that your parts feel seen, heard, and supported.

If you would like to learn more about IFS therapy or begin working with an IFS-informed therapist in Orange County, click here.